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Thursday, September 15, 2005 

Francisco on becoming...

Well a gay barber named Francisco had some interesting thoughts on 'becoming'.

He talked about how society and college all seem to stress the idea of becoming someone important. And that we need to do X in order to become happy. He said we are all on a search for happiness, and we think that different routes or plans of actions will get us there, but that we are mistaken.

Francisco said, "We are either happy now, or we are not going to be happy". This idea that we have to go through this program (I assume he meant college) to acheive happiness is ludicrous.. We are all planning (especially in the college years) for success and for happiness, but that these things which we are striving for will not really bring us happiness, he says.

People really don't stop to critically think of exactly what they are striving for. We are striving for what we assume to be the correct thing to strive for: success, family, kids, etc.. but we don't stop to sit back and critically think about why we chase these things. (Good point). He mentioned the fact that we chase things we don't understand. Like we think we need to be in a 'serious relationship', but what is serious and what is relationship, Francisco challenged.

He also said something of interest. That people don't really communicate with other people. We often don't really listen and understand other people. He mentioned that when in conversation with someone else, we already have an answer or something to say to that person in our head, and cease to be in the moment.

Francisco has a lot of interesting things to say. More morsels of wisdom from Francisco are sure to come.. stay tuned!